Head (Rationality) |
- Furrowed brow, thoughtful or peering gaze
- Controlled, monotone voice with deliberate pauses
- Touching forehead, temple, chin, or glasses
- Leaning forward in concentration, minimal movement
- Neutral facial expression, reduced emotional display
- Requests for data, evidence, or logical structure
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Present logical structure: Use facts, data, clear
arguments, "if...then" reasoning
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Mirror their processing style: Speak slowly, pause
after key information
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Body language: Maintain steady eye contact at equal
height, use supporting hand gestures
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Questions: "What criteria guide your analysis?" "How
does this relate to previous data?"
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Give processing time: Allow reflection space, offer
note-taking materials
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Avoid: Emotional appeals, rushed decisions, vague
claims without evidence
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Heart (Emotion) |
- Clear emotional facial expressions (joy, anger, fear, sadness)
- Color changes (flushing, paleness), trembling lips or chin
- Variable vocal tone, pitch, and volume
- Hands to chest/heart area, restless movements
- Intense eye contact or avoidance based on emotion
- Visible breathing changes (rapid, shallow, sighing)
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Create emotional safety: Acknowledge and validate
feelings without judgment
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Mirror their energy: Match emotional intensity through
vocal tone and facial expression
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Body language: Open, warm gestures; empathic nodding;
respectful distance
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Questions: "I see this affects you - what does this
mean to you?" "Where do you feel this in your body?"
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Use emotional contagion positively: Model calm,
supportive emotional states
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Avoid: Immediate problem-solving, dismissing emotions,
overwhelming with own feelings
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Gut (Intuition) |
- Grounded, stable posture with natural presence
- Calm, diaphragmatic breathing patterns
- Open hand gestures, often held low around waist
- Immediate physical reactions before conscious analysis
- Flowing, natural movements that seem integrated
- References to "gut feelings" or bodily sensations
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Honor their inner knowing: Trust and validate intuitive
responses
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Use somatic language: "What's your gut feeling?" "Which
option feels most aligned?"
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Body language: Open palms, relaxed breathing, receptive
listening posture
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Provide space: Allow silence for internal sensing and
processing
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Use metaphors: Visual imagery and creative questioning
techniques
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Avoid: Demanding immediate rational justification,
dismissing bodily wisdom
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Trauma (Neck/Throat) |
- Visible neck/shoulder tension, rigid or collapsed posture
- Frozen stare (dissociation) or hyper-alert, scanning gaze
- Shallow, restricted breathing or audible breathing distress
- Touching, rubbing, or protecting neck/throat area
- Sudden startle responses to small triggers
- Constricted, hoarse, or absent voice
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Prioritize nervous system safety: Create predictable,
non-threatening environment
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Offer choices and control: "Would you prefer to sit or
stand?" "What feels safest right now?"
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Body language: Slow, predictable movements; avoid
direct staring; keep hands visible
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Use grounding techniques: "Notice that plant in the
corner" - redirect to present safety
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Co-regulate through calm presence: Model ventral vagal
safety through your own nervous system
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Avoid: Sudden movements, confrontational questions,
overwhelming information
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Passion (Pelvis) |
- Energetic, vibrant posture taking up space confidently
- Dynamic, expressive, sometimes rhythmic movements
- Fuller, resonant voice with enthusiasm and variation
- Sparkling, lively eyes with direct positive contact
- Open to physical expression and connection (culturally appropriate)
- Natural charisma and magnetic presence
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Match and celebrate their energy: Reflect enthusiasm
authentically without dampening
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Provide creative outlet: Encourage expression and
exploration of ideas
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Body language: Open, responsive posture; direct
positive eye contact; expressive gestures
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Questions: "What ignites this passion?" "How can we
channel this energy into action?"
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Use emotional contagion: Allow their positive energy to
inspire your own engagement
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Avoid: Immediately dampening with criticism, showing
indifference to their enthusiasm
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